Slumber party!

So I have a house full of girls tonight. 

Little Sisters by Imagery MajesticYep. We’re having a slumber party.  

It’s nobody’s birthday or anything.  We’re just lucky enough to be part of a circle of families that all have two girls about the same ages as ours, & it’s become our routine to swap overnights every so often.  The kids love it, & the parents get a date night that doesn’t end until after breakfast.  Which is awesome.  

Because when you’ve been married with kids for ten-plus years, you sort of forget what it’s like to wake up when you’re done sleeping rather than when a six-year-old lands on your bladder.  You forget that you used to go to the movies on a whim.  You definitely forget what a luxury it is to swear in the car without long-lasting and embarrassing repercussions.  

Friends by Vichaya Kiatying-AnsuleeLast week we were the lucky ones.  Our friends took the girls & we went to see the new Star Trek movie.  We had dinner before & drinks after, & took a nice walk, too.  It felt incredibly indulgent and decadent, all that kid-free time.  Ours for the wasting!  We haven’t had time to waste in YEARS, & I’m not going to lie.  We enjoyed the heck out of it.

But tonight’s our turn for the full house, & you know what?  I’m enjoying the heck out of that, too.  

Teenaged girls sleeping by Imagery Majestic

Because it won’t be very long before my girlies are past the stage where it’s cool to invite all your friends to the house & run around like crazy people.  Pretty soon it’ll be all about being OUT of the house, seeing and being seen in all the right places, which are–presumably–not parent-infested locations like our home.  It will certainly not be cool to put on your jammers, watch movies in the basement & laugh like loons until the wee hours.  

So tonight, when I’m shouting down the stairs for the kids to please, for the love of tuna salad, pipe DOWN and go to SLEEP, I’ll remind myself how fast these years are passing, and how much I’m enjoying the precious children.  I’m sure that’ll do the trick.

So how about you?  Did you do sleep overs as a kid?  What do you remember about them?  Love them?  Hate them?  Still do them?  Share! 


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  • fedora says:

    LOL! FUN, Susan! I don’t recall many sleepovers as a kid, but we’ve hosted quite a few… it’s summer again, and it’s prime time for sleepovers! In fact, I’m guessing we’ll be having one (or three) soon, as the kids have all been asking. While we try to get the kids to sleep at a reasonable hour (is 11 too much to ask? Really?? Come on! You all are only 7…), sometimes we just let them whisper a little longer. After all, they can nap tomorrow, right? 😉

    • Fedora, the rooster’s coming over for a sleepover. In space, nobody can hear you scream!

    • Susan Sey says:

      Good morning, Fedora! As you can see, I survived until morning. The girls were all out cold by shortly after midnight–sleeping arrangements were reinvented several times prior, of course. The big girls ended up in the bunkbeds (“The little girls are being so LOUD!”) while the little girls made a nest in the basement. Now they’re up & begging for pancakes so I have to assume all went well!

      Good luck with your summer sleep overs–so fun!

  • Susan, you’re so lucky to have this arrangement! I’d love to do that, too–really miss having date night. Sleepovers were absolutely my favourite thing when I was a child and actually, come to think of it, they still are! I love getting the chance to run away with friends or girlfriends and have a sleepover. Just had one at Foanna’s place and it was terrific fun. Alcohol might have been involved…

  • Helen says:


    Yep I loved sleeping over and having friends over to my house when I was a kid and we did this lots of times when our kids were young as well loved it because they do grow up very quickly. It is Hubby’s birthday today and we are having a BBQ tonight with my 4 children and their partners and my 6 grandchildren over and 2 of them are having a sleep over tonight fun and games LOL
    Enjoy your night

    Have Fun

    • Susan Sey says:

      Oh, Helen, that sounds like so much fun! And it makes me realize that while, yes, there’s probably a window of time when it’s not cool or fun for the kids to have sleepovers, time is wheel and pretty soon THEIR kids will want to have sleepovers. So all is not lost! Happy birthday to your DH, & enjoy your grandbabies tonight!

  • Christine, you, me and Denise definitely had a sleepover, didn’t we? I was thinking back to my primary school days when I used to get so excited about sleepovers, I wouldn’t sleep for a week beforehand. I was a nightmare for whoever I stayed with. I can still remember the slightly illicit thrill of staying in someone else’s house! Susan, what a fun post. I hope you and the girls have a great time!

    • Susan Sey says:

      I’m jealous of your plot party/sleepovers, Anna! I wish I loved close enough to Inara, my beloved CP, for this to happen. She’s skipping nationals this year, too, so I don’t know WHEN I’ll get my Inara fix! Boooo!

      But yes, there’s something thrilled about being in somebody else’s personal spaces overnight, isn’t there? I used to enjoy that about babysitting as well–being in a stranger’s house & seeing how they organized things. How different & exotic it all seemed. Fun!

  • Mary Preston says:

    I hated sleeping over at my friends when I was younger. Not the fun part, but the meals. I practically had to starve, because no one cooked like my Mother. I used to not eat & just say I wasn’t hungry.

    • Susan Sey says:

      Oh, this is totally my eldest child. She’s about as big around as a pipecleaner but she’s such a fussy eater! It’s getting better but when she was younger I used to worry about sending her away for too long–even a few hours!–because I was worried she’d starve to death. Kid has NO cushion when it comes to weight. She’d get the flu & I’d fly into a tremendous panic because she simply doesn’t have the extra 3 pounds to spare.

  • Ah yes slumber parties such a misnomer as any parent can tell you. Of course being grown-ups ourselves all pretend to go to romance writing conferences to network, for professional development and update our industry knowledge etc etc but we all know it’s really just a giant slumber party and it’s kinda like being a kid again as there’s somebody else to cook for you and clean up after you. Perfect.

    • Susan Sey says:

      You totally nailed that one, Melinda! I absolutely think of RWA nationals as summer camp for mommies. I look forward all year, especially to that part about never cooking or cleaning up. Such a luxury! And to be able to tell my family that I’m working? The mind boggles.

  • Teresa Hughes says:

    My daughter is 19. My sons are 18 and 13. I can’t tell you the number of times we have had sleep overs. My daughter who is from college has already had 3 this summer. My sons don’t have them as often. But, I love them because their friends are like my other kids. I will miss all the kids being at my house when its time for no more sleep overs:(

    • Susan Sey says:

      Hi, Teresa! Hey, did you say your college student is still hosting sleepovers? That’s wonderful! I thought maybe in high school we parents would be far too uncool to put on display in our pjs, but maybe there’s hope!

      Enjoy your college girl, & keep hosting those sleepovers! They’re so much fun, & boy do you hear interesting stuff if you cook them breakfast & keep your mouth shut…

  • We had numerous sleep overs when the boys were younger. And many times, I would have to walk downstairs at 1am and tell them to go to sleep! It was fun and I miss those days.

    Now we’re into a different phase. My youngest just got his driving permit. And my oldest will turn 21 on the 4th. I’m feeling rather old today.

    • Susan Sey says:

      Oh, Christie, you’re not old! And let me tell you, some days I feel like all I do is drive the van, so the idea of my youngest getting her permit thrills me to little bitty pieces! What a wonderful new phase of life–not chauffeuring the masses any more! I envy you that, let me tell you!

      But there’s no denying, sleepovers are tremendously fun. I hope your boys continue to have them, even though they’re old & cool now. I remember bringing home practically half the staff of my summer camp from time to time. My parents never blinked. I should write them a thank you note.

  • pjpuppymom says:

    Slumber parties (we called them pajama parties) were hugely popular when I was growing up, especially during my early teens. Seems like every weekend we were sleeping at somebody else’s house (though the majority of them seemed to end up at my house). My mom made sure we were well fed, my dad told ghost stories, we stayed up most of the night talking about (and giggling over) cute boys and made memories that still make me smile more than 40 years later. 🙂

    • Susan Sey says:

      PJ, how cool that you were “the” house for slumber parties! I always wished that could be our house but unfortunately, we lived so far out in the country that it was always a special occasion when a whole bunch of people came over. We weren’t really conveniently located. And I love it that your dad told ghost stories! I was always such a scaredy cat! I bet he had some good ones!

  • Oh Susan – What fun! I really miss the days when the kids had sleepovers.

    My husband and I were just talking about growing up without air conditioning which sometimes meant sleeping outside just to get cooler. I grew up in a row house in Towson, Maryland in an area with lots and lots of kids of a similar age. I remember going to sleepovers at a friends house who had a big screened in porch. Those were heaven! We slept on chaise lounges and got to see the sun come up over the neighborhood. Sometime during the night, the boys would creep up and try to scare us, but we were always ready for them. Great times.

    • Susan Sey says:

      Oh my gosh, Donna, that sounds so cool! We grew up so far in the country we didn’t even have neighbors. Not in any practical sense, anyway. The trade off was the stars. Lord almighty did we have stars. We used to sneak out onto the roof outside the attic (my mom would die if she knew this) to lie on our backs & watch them on summer nights.

      But I think my thirteen year old self would’ve traded the stars for a few sneaky boys in a heartbeat. 🙂

  • Cassondra says:

    Susan, what a great post!

    The sleepover I remember is from 4th or 5th grade. There must have been 10 little girls, and we had a vinyl copy of Rockin’ Robin. We played it over and over and over and over and o…yeah. Those poor parents. We did the bump to Rockin Robin until the wee hours, and I still remember my hips and booty being sore for the next three days.

    • Susan Sey says:

      All the little birdies on jay bird street love to hear the robin sing tweet tweet tweet….

      I haven’t thought about that song for ages, & yet…it does bring to mind some slumber parties from my youth. I wonder if it was a thing? Or if we’re just contemporaries. Makes you wonder. Great song, nonetheless!

      • Cassondra says:

        Nope I think I’m enough older than you that we would not be considered contemporaries, however, that song might have hung around for slumber parties after I’d passed that age. I’m not sure about that. But I can still sing the song, hear the screams and the giggles, and still remember the surprise I felt at my sore hips. I just never expected the sore hips. But we were dancing some serious bump.

  • Cassondra says:

    Oh, and I meant to say, I think you’re really smart to soak up this time with your kids, every instant of it you can smoosh into the fun memory bank, and enjoy the heck out of it. I know there are moments when you want to choke the little angels, but liking your kids makes you a really cool mom.

    • Susan Sey says:

      I genuinely do like them most times.

      But my desire to put them in a headlock until they listen to simple instructions is also extremely genuine. So far I’ve resisted. I hope to continue the streak.

  • catslady says:

    I had one girlfriend that just the two of us slept over so we were good lol. I’ve had many slumber parties when my 2 girls were growing up but 3 or more is a lot more chaos lol. We were to see the Star Trek movie last week but my husband’s company puts on this movie day where you can see 3 to 4 movies with popcorn and soda for free. It was today. So I get up way too early (6 AM ugh). We finally get into our first movie at 9 – saw 5 min. of previews and the electricity went out!! We waited for an hour and then we had to leave the theater because of insurance complications (no air so I guess they thought someone may pass out lol). We waited another hour in the parking lot and gave up. A friend stayed another half hour and it got canceled. It is suppose to be another day but who knows.

    • Susan Sey says:

      Well, that’s a bummer! I would LOVE it if my husband’s company did one of those movie day deals. When I was between grad school & a real job, I spent several months temping & was able to experience little bits of many companies, & I always loved the ones that treated its employees to the occasional perk like that. Hope you get a ‘do-over’ soon!

  • CateS says:

    My parents were in real estate and purchased a summer cottage [clapboard, uninsulated] that was on the lake only a mile from where we lived. After that, Mom was in charge of any slumber party…Dad was at the house in town!! The whole lake has now turned almost 100% year round residential… but there are still just a few of those little cottages left.

    • Susan Sey says:

      Now that sounds like fun! We had a cottage growing up & every so often we were allowed to invite friends to come with us. It was like a week-long slumber much fun!

  • Susan, what a fun post! Yes, we did sleepovers, though not much actual sleeping tended to occur. I remember watching a horror movie at one and then some depressing thing about women who collaborated with the Nazis. These were on late-night TV in the days before cable, so selections were limited.

    The boy wanted to have a sleepover for one of his birthdays. We agreed, thinking, It’s boys. How bad can it be?

    Oh, man.

    Things started off well. We took them to Pizza Hut to get a good carb load and then to the local comic shop for Yu-Gi-Oh gaming. Then we came back, had ice cream and birthday cake (more carb load and resulting frenetic energy), and they went upstairs to play electronic games until the wee hours.

    Then it was cereal for breakfast–more carb load–more gaming, and then hot dogs for lunch. By this time, it was raining, totally spoiling our plan to send them outside.

    As the dh and I assembled 6 plates of hot dogs, to the accompaniment of shouts and game-generated crashes, we realized many people do that daily. We asked yourselves how they did it. Perhaps, we mused, many of them have larger houses than we.

    Anyway, we fed them and, delighted when parents began ringing our doorbell, happily sent them home. The boy had a great time, so it was worth it, but he was even more tired than we were. We at least slept soundly during the night. So we never did that again.

    Some of you are probably thinking, Bless your hearts with the range of Southern meanings that run the gamut from How could you be so incredibly stupid? to Been there, done that, feel your pain. *g*

    Susan, you are so right to cherish this time, insanity and all. It passes much too quickly.

    Speaking of time passing, when is the next Blake Brothers book coming out? Kinda waiting for it here….

    • Susan Sey says:

      Nancy, that was an EPIC sleep over you threw! Out for dinner, then hosting breakfast AND lunch? Heavens! I invite the kids over AFTER dinner, then have them picked up directly after breakfast! I just ride herd on movies & late night hijinx!

      But I’ll bet The Boy remembers it fondly to this day, so you get bonus parent points. 🙂

      As for the Blake Brothers book up next, I’m working on it daily. Will keep you posted on release dates but I’m hoping for late 2013. Thanks for asking!

      • It didn’t seem so epic in the planning–you know, with the part where they’d eat lunch outside. And while they played Yu-Gi-Oh, we went across the street for Caribbean food. But still…

        As you say, the boy had a great time, and that was the point.

        Glad to hear the Blakes are progressing.

    • Cassondra says:

      Nancy said,

      The boy wanted to have a sleepover for one of his birthdays. We agreed, thinking, It’s boys. How bad can it be?

      I think some naivete is expected for new parents, or for first experiences like this, but that last line….that’s a fairly high degree of naivete right there. *grin*

  • Pat Cochran says:

    No sleepovers at our house when I was young.
    We had enough for our own sleepovers with
    all nine of us. There really wasn’t enough room
    for anyone else!

    Pat C.

    • Susan Sey says:

      Sounds like every night was a party with nine of you in the house! I’ll bet you had to GO to sleep overs to get some quiet time!