Happy Father’s Day!
Posted by Christie Kelley Jun 16 2012, 11:58 pm
I know most of the banitas are women but it is Father’s Day so let’s celebrate. As you read this, I’m either up in NY visiting my mom, driving home or if it’s late, maybe I’m home. I probably won’t be able to respond much today so have fun without me.
My dad was a wonderful man. He had nine kids, loved the little ones and struggled with the teens. Then again, don’t we all? One of my favorite memories of him was when I was little and he would get dressed to go to the bank. By dressed, I mean suit and tie to make a deposit. He loved when one of his little ones would go with him so I went with him a lot. It also helped that I got a lollipop from the teller. I can’t imagine a man putting on a suit to go to the bank today.
We didn’t have a lot of money but he always made sure holidays were special. Every year when I was little he would take me to the department store where Santa was so I could tell Santa what I wanted for Christmas. Family was very important to him and I know he loved having such a large family.
My dad was so proud of his Irish heritage. Lately, I’ve been doing some genealogy work on his side of the family. I didn’t expect to find anything new. I already knew that most of my relatives came over between the 1830s and 1860s. And yet, going back only to my great-grandmother Cassie, I discovered the man everyone thought was her father, wasn’t. Being a writer, I was fascinated to discover that Cassie’s supposed father wasn’t even in the country when she was born (in PA). And he was only 15 years older than she was. What I haven’t been able to determine is why she and her older sisters all took his surname. So far, I haven’t been able to figure out who her real father was. While I’m up in NY this weekend, my mother and I are going to the cemetery to check out some of the relative’s graves so see if we get any clues there. Maybe I’ll have an update later.
So while I’m on the road, tell me one of your favorite memories of your dad. Or if that wasn’t the best relationship, how about another family member or friend who acted a dad to you.