Focusing on Positivity

It only takes a few minutes of scrolling through Facebook to realize that there is a lot of negativity put out there into the world. I was thinking about that at the end of last year and decided that in my own small way, I was going to combat this in 2014. So I started a hashtag for #365positivity and post something positive and/or inspiring on Facebook every day and plan to do so every day for the rest of the year. It’s already had a positive effect on me, and I’ve seen a couple of other people start their own #365positivity posts. I thought I’d play off that for today’s post and offer up a quick five of positives about January, my least favorite month of the year.

1. Each day is getting longer with more daylight.

2. Finally, after two years since the end of season 2 of Sherlock, season 3 finally debuted last night! Benedict Cumberbatch and Martin Freeman, for the win!

3. After two months of staying with his father post surgery, my husband got to come back home. It was getting pretty lonely here without him.

4. Trips to the movie theater with my good friend Lara. Despite the convenience of Netflix, I still love the experience of going to the movie theater. We went to see The Legend of Hercules because we are both huge Spartacus fans, and Liam McIntyre (who played Spartacus) was in the movie. We also plan to see I, Frankenstein this month, and already have a few movie outings planned for the next couple of months (Vampire Academy, Robocop, Pompeii, 300: Rise of an Empire, Divergent, Veronica Mars, and Captain America: The Winter Soldier).

5. Registration opens for the RWA National Conference tomorrow. It’ll be in San Antonio this year, a city I love. It also means that my bestie, author MJ Fredrick, will attend since it’s in her back yard.

What positive things have happened to you this month? What movies are you looking forward to in the months ahead?



  • Patty L. says:

    Hmmm, I love that January is filled with NFL playoffs. πŸ™‚ There are a few new movies coming out that I want to see mostly rom/com. Of course, on the spot I can’t remember their names. πŸ™‚

  • Trish, what a fabulous idea! Actually clearly I must be looking in the right place on Facebook. I find a lot of it very uplifting. People post such pretty things on it and things that make me laugh or think or whatever. Maybe I just don’t notice the negative stuff so much. Which is probably a good thing.

    I’ve just had a few days at beautiful Noosa with my oldest friend. I’m looking forward to a trip down to see my lovely critique partner Annie West in early February. And I just got voted into the top 50 favorite Aussie authors in the Booktopia poll. That did wonders for my attitude today, LOL!

  • Helen says:


    This is a great idea πŸ™‚

    I am loving watching the cricket at the moment
    I have read som awesome books this month
    I had a great romance reader luch earlier in the month with Annie West Michelle Douglas Donna Gallagher Maggie Nash and some great friend
    I have spent some great times with my grandchildren
    And I have another of my grandchildren starting school this month

    Have Fun

  • Anna Sugden says:

    I’ve been enjoying your positivity on FB, Trish. I’m sure it reminds others, as it does me, to look for the good in each day. Doc Cambridge always says you should take something positive out of every day too.

    I’m so looking forward to San Antonio and seeing MJ again – as well as many of my Bandita sisters and beloved writing pals.

    Let’s see:
    My revisions are done on A Perfect Trade
    I love watching sport this month – hockey, NFL and soccer – though wish my teams were doing a little better!
    I’ve enjoyed cuddles with our grandson
    My husband has spoiled me with a fabulous trip to NY soon!
    I have a new double radiator in my office, so it’s not the coldest room in the house anymore!

  • Laurie G says:

    We won a judgment against former tenants and they’ve moved out!

    My daughter is expecting our 2nd grandchild, even though it’s high-risk so far no complications!

    I’m taking more time to read and to write reviews.

    I’m spending fun time with my 2 yo granddaughter!

  • Susan Sey says:

    This is a fantastic idea, Trish!

    Today I’m grateful for the day off school, and the reason for it. (It’s MLK day, & I like civil rights for all. I also like sleeping in on a Monday.)

    I’m also grateful that you brought up RWA registration, because I love being reminded six months out that I’m going to get an awesome week away with my writer friends. Looking forward to something like that makes February bearable. Plus the academy awards. πŸ™‚

    So happy your husband’s home! That’s got to feel great.

    • And February has the Winter Olympics this year. I love the Winter Olympics.

      Yes, it’s great to have hubby home and that the reason for it is that his dad is doing better.

  • Woke up with joy in my heart and thankfulness for all the Lord has brought my way.

  • Debbie Oxier says:

    Looking forward to seeing Captain America this year. Love the Avengers. Hope someone comes out with a really good animated film. Disney’s Frozen was fantastic. As for positive things in my life, I will take anything I can get. Last year was a difficult year for us. Thankful we got through it and looking for better things in the future.

    • Debbie, I loved The Avengers, too.

      Last year was difficult for us, too. That’s why I was happy to see 2014 dawn and am determined it will be a fantastic year.

  • Thank you for all the positive vibes. I’ve really enjoyed your #365positivity on FB and I hope to post a few of my own. Don’t know that I’ll get to one every day, but it’s in the same spirit. πŸ˜‰

    January has been awesome in a lot of ways: both my Lil Man and Big Man had birthdays, I had a book release, the Jack Ryan movie came out, Big Man and I have already had 2 date nights (which are a rare and cherished thing)and it’s now 2014! I won’t be at RWA this summer but I hope to see you at M&M! I foresee a lot of good things this year. Keep up the positivity. πŸ˜€

  • Kaelee says:

    There is a great Johnny Mercer song that expresses this so well. Look up Accentuate the Positive on you tube. I’ll be singing the song for a while which is a positive thing in itself.

    We visited with my brother and my husband’s sister on Saturday and had a nice Chinese food meal. Also found some items for my collection of figurines.

    Last night while watching a honorary nephew play hockey, I was talking to my niece. I asked her if she had used the Christmas present I bought her. She gave me great feed back and said it was a perfect present and something she never would have splurged on for herself. When my sister had suggested buying her long underwear to keep her legs warm while she helped her young son deliver papers, I was horrified. However I went to Bass and got her a pair of Underarmor. Now I think I want a pair for myself.

    I watched the first season of Call the Midwife thanks to Anna and Anna ( I think that’s who I have to thank). I enjoyed it so much I have the second season on hold at the library . I will follow up with the third season and then maybe read the books.

  • I like being positive, Trish, thanks for reminding me to make it a regular thing.

    1. I’m on the last chapter of the next book in the Edgars Family series!! (Should finish it today!)

    2. Everyone is healthy again!

    3. I get to read STYXX by Sherrilyn Kenyon as my treat for finishing VANISHED.

    4. It’s sunny and crisp outside today, so a walk is in order.

    5. Rusty, our new puppy, makes us smile all day.

    6. Son’s GF’s sister has girlscout cookies!

  • Connie Fischer says:

    I’m hoping for warmer weather here in Florida. It’s been chilly for us for a couple of weeks as it always is in January and February. That’s when I find I’m out of sorts and rather crabby because I want to have my windows and doors open and my shorts on. It sounds petty, but the weather has always had a huge affect on my mood.

    • Winter weather definitely has an effect on my mood, particularly when it’s gloomy. It’s all relative to what you’re used to because I believe I’d be dancing for joy if I were in Florida now. πŸ™‚

  • Shannon says:

    I’ve been talking to friends lately about how easy it is to ping to negativity rather than positivity. I even thought about a bit on my walk in the sunshine, and then I came home to this post. Yes, there is sunshine and nice temps before the dreaded snow.

    One of the ways I stay on the positive side is to make a 3 item gratitude list daily.

    It’s strange you should mention going to movies. My usual movie buddies want to see local theater, so the next two weeks are going to be The Ballad of the Red Knight and Ragtime. After that, we’ll pick up with movies. Her is one that someone suggested. Osage County is another.

    Good things in my life:

    1. More daylight. I’m with you, rooting for spring and summer.

    2. Life is getting back into its routine. I am more comfortable when there’s a set time for tasks and not too many distractions. Work, exercise, dinner, reading; repeat.

    3. Friends are encouraging me to do new things, “forcing” me to expand my world to include creativity. Thank you for cheerleaders!

    4. I got an iPhone in December. I am going to iPhone class at the Apple store this Friday. Yes, I’m joining the 21st century.

    • There is a definite comfort in routine, most of the time anyway. Every once in a while it’s nice to just be spontaneous. But interruptions when you’re trying to focus on something are annoying. I have to remind myself to just roll with things

  • Cassondra says:

    Hi Trish!

    I love your positivity idea. I’ve been doing this since I started on facebook…I refuse to post anything overtly negative. I will post things that make me laugh out loud, or things that make me feel good. But I just won’t do negative. And I’ll confess right here. When someone else’s negative stuff comes across my feed, I either hide it so I can’t see it, or if it’s constant, I just block that person. Yeah, I”m ruthless that way. There’s plenty of negativity to distract me. I don’t need to open the door to more and invite it in. Getting ruthless about trying to avoid negative people in real life too, not just on the internet. Kinda spinning my own little cocoon of positive around me. Now I’ve gotta get positive about rejoining the gym I guess. It’s too cold to run or walk outside. Having a tough time with that one, since I don’t particularly enjoy gyms.

    • I don’t really enjoy gyms (or their membership fees) either. That’s why I like to get outside when I can. About another month, though, and yard work will start again. So I and my surgical mask will be outside weeding and such.

  • Jo Robertson says:

    Inspiring post, Trish! It’s so easy to look at the bad things that happen to us rather than taking joy in the good things.

    I’m reminded of the story of an optimist: A little boy wanted a pony for his birthday. Instead he got a stable of sh**. He begins gleefully digging through the manure, saying, “With all this sh** there’s got to be a pony somewhere!”

    I’m looking forward to a productive year of writing. Last year wasn’t as fruitful as I wanted as I got bogged down with the business aspects of writing.

    Oh, and yeah, I’m turning 70 next month, so I’m trying to take a positive attitude toward that!

  • Hi Trish –
    Love your positive posts – great idea.

    Having said that – being positive about January, especially right now as we’re on the brink of another two artic cold waves, is a challenge.
    1. My wonderful daughter’s birthday is this Saturday which means a family celebration always a good thing
    2. January means everything starts again fresh and new. I’m more motivated to plunge back into my story.
    3. January means I got (finally) my RITA books to read. Love judging this contest – not so much to give number scores to someone else’s creativity, but I get to make reading a priority.
    4. THe sun is a rare and celebrated sight in Columbus these days…but the cloudy days makes sleeping in easier πŸ™‚
    5. January means a return to my aerobic classes after the craziness of the holidays. I enjoy those classes and my classmates – it’s a good thing.

    Glad to hear your husband is back home. That has to be worth a celebration.

  • EC Spurlock says:

    What a great idea, Trish! Staying positive is especially important for folks like me, who tend to look on the dark side. Hard for me to do, but it helps keep me going!

    The most positive thing right now is that I have a ton of freelance work on my plate! I have projects for four out of five editors I work with, including my first full-scale single-designer book. I will even get an advance plus royalties on that one; although unlike a book contract, the advance serves as my design fee so I don’t have to give it back if I don’t sell through. Kind of like a book contract with training wheels. πŸ˜€ So we are finally seeing the light at the end of the hospital bills. And of course I’m enjoying my new car! Better mileage, lower car payments and insurance payments, and nothing that needs repairs — what’s not to love?!

  • catslady says:

    I don’t usually get to too many movies but at the end of last year one of the ladies in my bowling league came up with the idea of seeing a movie once a month and then having lunch. So I’ve seen 3 movies I wouldn’t have. Glad she thought of it. So far Hunger Games and Thor were my favorites.

  • pjpuppymom says:

    What a wonderful, positive outlook, Trish! Thanks to the early influence of my late grandmother, I’ve spent my life seeing the glass half-full and generally being grateful for the “positivity”, even in the darkest of times.

    Some of my January positives:

    Watching my favorite college football team win the National Championship!

    Finally decorating my condo and finding things I love…on sale!

    Having wonderful friends who are helping me with hanging, installing, etc.

    A fun and festive morning making cookies with my niece and nephews of the heart.

    A fun and hard-fought basketball win for my 11 yr old nephew of the heart…and a big hug (in public!) to thank me for coming to cheer him on.

    Stopping by the grocery for salad dressing and discovering Talenti Sea Salt Caramel Gelato on sale. Big positive!

    Running the Romance Dish with one of the best women around…and still having fun doing it.

    RWA registration for San Antonio. I’ll be there!

    Cards, notes and facebook comments from around the world reminding me that sorrow is shared and grief is lightened by those who care.

    Awards shows! I’m a Red Carpet junkie. What can I say? πŸ˜‰

    Movies: still want to see Saving Mr. Banks, Jack Ryan: Shadow Recruit and Frozen.

  • What a great idea, Trish !

    Let me see :

    1. My grand niece Miss Marilyn Rose Bolton made her debut on January 2nd (her maternal great grandfather’s birthday) at 8 lbs 3 oz and 20 inches long. She is a DOLL !!

    2. The Price of a Gentleman won the Hot Prospects contest. Wicked in His Arms won the Launching a Star Contest and is a finalist in the Emily !

    3. My Mom is in great health at 78 years of age and her posse of Little Old Ladies still gets together once a week to enjoy good food and great conversation about family, books and local gossip.

    4. I have a job. I may not like it, but I have one and it pays the bills and many people don’t have that.

    5. I succumbed to the lure of Downton Abbey and watched all three seasons on DVD. LOVED it, especially Dame Maggie Smith as the Dowager Countess. Cannot WAIT for the 4th season to come out on DVD so I can watch it.

    6. LOVED the latest Star Trek film – INTO DARKNESS.

    7. RWA CONFERENCE !! I get to be a writer for an entire week with no interference from the outside world. Get to see my critique partners, Banditas, buddies and all of my fabulous friends!