Call Me Any Time

Seriously.  Any.  Time.

Not.

Okay, truth time.

I’ve never been all that much of a phone talker. Even as a child, I called, I got the information I was after, and I hung up. No sitting on the phone for hours. I’m still that way.

phone 2 etsyWhen I was a little girl, we had one phone in the house. It looked like this phone on the left.

Our phone was on a party line.

For you who don’t know, that means several homes in the community would share one line.

I remember waiting for hours to call my grandmother. Waiting for the teenagers to get tired of “talking” which wasn’t really talking at all.  It basically meant sitting on the line, saying a word or two, then breathing fo r the next ten minutes, all the while tying up the line so nobody could call.

I didn’t have the nerve to ask them to give up the line.

And of course, the most interesting thing about a party line was that anybody could listen in. Most of the time you could hear the obvious clicking and clunking when someone picked up. But not always.

The polite thing to do was to pick up, and if you heard people on the line, hang right back up again.  But not everyone did that.

Usually, you knew when someone was eavesdropping. Other times, there was no telltale.  So if you didn’t want it phone shhhhhknown, you didn’t talk about it on the phone.

Fast Forward to private lines. I was a teenager by the time my family got one, and it was a big deal. I could talk without being overheard, and I could call any time I wanted, unless the phone was in use.

Then came call waiting. I’d moved away from home by then, but I had trouble with call waiting. I didn’t want to be informed that somebody else was trying to call me while I was talking.  I still don’t.

Fast forward again to the 1990s. Now the phone could be taken in a car, or carried in a purse. A few incarnations later  you could walk down the street while you talked to someone half way around the world.

And even then, nobody dreamed of texting.

Flash forward to now.

I can read a book on my phone. I can listen to music. I can play games, check email, or post to facebook.   Duchess Jeanne or Bandita Nancy can send me pictures of their trip to the Okefenokee Swamp. (As an aside, they did this, and I was overcome with jealousy instantaneously, instead of having to wait to be jealous once I got home to my email.)

I was talking with Dianna Love yesterday evening, and she told me this is “National Cell Phone Courtesy Month.”

Hmm.

What, exactly, is “courteous” when it comes to cell phone usage?

Since I hate talking on the phone as a rule, I happen to love texting.  It took me a while to warm up to the idea, but then I figured out that I could get finished typing a paragraph in my story, then I could answer.   I could look at the incoming text and think, “are you crazy?” and I could think about my answer before I type it in.

Yeah.  I love texting.

Of course, where the waters seem safest, there’s always a sea monster.  Recently I got the following text:

Hey beautiful I’m at work! Be extra careful on ur way in this morning!! I hope u have a great day today! I love you with all my heart and cant wait to see you! Muahhhhhh!

Unfortunately, that was not from my husband. It was from our neighbor down the street.

phone dangerA few seconds later I got the following:

Sorry I meant to send that to my wife.

 

 

Yeah, smart phones are not always so smart.

Danger, Will Robinson! Danger!

 

I try hard to NOT be on the phone when I get to the cashier at the grocery checkout lane. If I am, I ask the caller to hold on. I figure the least I can do is smile and actually interact with the person who’s checking me out. That’s a person, after all, not a machine (thank God), and to ignore him/her is rude.

At least that’s what I think.

I also think it’s rude to go to lunch with a friend and spend the entire time checking my phone for texts. Iphone  clip art understand if there’s a real emergency, but that could be covered in advance. “I’m so sorry, my mother is in surgery and I may get a text to let me know how she’s doing.”  Totally understandable.

But otherwise, can you not wait for half an hour to find out that your buddy from Waco just hit the jackpot in the lottery and won $25 worth of tortilla chips?

The idea of cell phone courtesy is an interesting one to me.

Because I’ve gotta tell ya, I think it’s too late.

I think it’s a bit like tryiPhone thank young to signal the boat that there’s danger after it’s already gone over the dam.

Houston, we have a problem.

Technology is no longer a thing that is off in the distance somewhere, sending men to the moon. And etiquette is no longer a fixed set of standards.

Back then, you either knew, or did not know, which fork to use at dinner. You knew, or did not know, the protocols for sending thank you notes.
Now, the idea of etiquette–or courtesy–is in constant flux as the ways we communicate change right before our eyes.  Seems to me that the rules would need to change almost daily, or they won’t keep up with advancements in technology.Phone amy vanderbilt

Maybe we should give up rules entirely?

Incidentally, that book on the right, Amy Vanderbilt’s Complete Book of Etiquette, is where I learned which fork to use. I checked that out of the library when I was fifteen, and then re-checked it for nearly an entire year.  I figured a girl needs to know about forks, yaknow?

So I’m updating an old manuscript—a book I wrote a long time ago—as part of a series that will release in a few months. The romance is still the same, but updates mean that everybody in the book now has a cell phone, because in modern life, almost everybody does.

And even then, I have a friend who has no cell phone and has no plans to get one.  She is embracing simplicity, and doesn’t want to be available to anybody, anywhere, any time.

I think I’ll put  a person like that in this series.

So tell me, Bandits and Buddies, what is courteous behavior for cell phone use?

Do you have any pet peeves about cell phones, whether in public or in private?

Ever gotten a text meant for someone else?

If you could write a section in the “Bandit Book of Modern Cell Phone Etiquette” what would you put in there?

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  • Jane says:

    Hello Cassondra,
    I hate it when people talk loudly on their phones on the bus or even the street. I actually see more than a few people talking on their cell while using the restroom. I’ve never gotten a text that was meant for someone else. It could still happen in the future.

    • Cassondra Murray says:

      Hi Jane,

      I have an issue with using a cell phone while in the restroom, but I know people do it. In a long conversation, it’s hard to avoid that, and I guess it’s better to use the restroom than to sit there suffering, hoping the other person will hang up, so I probably should get over it, but it’s a little icky.

    • Cassondra Murray says:

      Oh and as far as I know, the rooster does not have a cell phone. But he seems to be awfully fond of you. Maybe you’re letting him use YOUR cell phone?

      • Jane says:

        He spends hours on the phone. I’m assuming he plays Words With Friends with you and the other Banditas.

        • Cassondra says:

          Jane, I don’t play words with friends, so it’s not me. Hmmm…he really likes shiny things. Wonder if he’s playing Bejeweled with the sound off?

  • ki pha says:

    Ahhh The cell phone talk. I remember us touching on this subject a year ago about touch screen and smart phones. I used to not touch my flip phone at all but now it’s so difficult because I had to switch to touch screen which is the death of me. LOL

    But one thing I hate is people in the bathroom and still touched their phone. so not clean and hygienic! Plus, when I go to the theaters or to dinner, I hate seeing folks not having a great conversation but looking down at their phones or constantly texting. Like what’s the whole point of texting when talking is so much more efficient and quicker? I don’t know but back in my day, texting was used to cheat on tests at school.

    • Cassondra says:

      ki pha, really? Kids used it to cheat on tests?

      Did the teachers not realize what was going on?

      Lessee…I’m sitting at the front of the class and I see kids put down their pencils, look down, and work their thumbs. Then pick up their pencils.

      I’m sure they were sneakier than that, but teachers get pretty smart about cheating, sohow did they not know?

      I think now cell phones aren’t allowed out of bags in some classes. At the university here, It think it’s a policy that no cell phones can be out during class. I’d have to make that rule if I were a teacher.
      And yes, cell phones in the bathroom brings up a bunch of issues for me.

  • Amy Conley says:

    1. People standing in the middle of a store, church, party talking loudly of their cell phones drives me NUTS. If you must take a call someplace like that, please move to the back of the room, a bathroom or other private place.
    2. Checking your phone every 5 seconds (my kids do this and it drives me NUTS also) while you are supposedly having a face to face conversation with someone….of course if there is a family medical situation going on, explain it but at least try not to be conspicuiouis.
    3. I can’t stand loud ringers. I usually keep my phone of vibrate, which when I asked my hubby (who happens to be sitting next to him what type of etiquette he thought was wrong this is what he mentioned because I had my phone of vibrate and he was at work and had a heart attack and he had to have the town marshall come to the house to tell me)
    3. Texting while you are supposedly have a face to face conversation with another person.
    4. Basically I hate texts, but with voice to texts, I don’t mind so much. Now I do try to be discreet, at least when I out about doing this, what I am saying to the other person really isn’t anyone’s business, but, if I must reply ASAP, I try to walk away from other people and keep my voice down to just above a whisper.

    • Cassondra says:

      OMGosh, Amy, your husband had a heart attack at work, and the town marshall had to come to your house? Gosh, that would scare the bejebus out of me. I hope he was okay.

      • Amy Conley says:

        he’s had for heart attacks and he’s still going though that’s all that matters I guess.

  • Mary Preston says:

    I’m like your friend. I do NOT have a mobile phone & can’t see myself ever getting one.

    My sister lives with her mobile phone in her hand.

    OMG!!!

    • Cassondra says:

      Mary, I actually know a few people who don’t have cell phones. And I know a few people who don’t have computers. They don’t seem to miss them, but now I wonder how I’d live without one. I pretty much live with my cell phone in my hand or my pocket because now it’s my only phone. There’s not a phone in the house. But I’ve made a rule–I don’t take it sailing. When I’m on the boat, it’s just me and the boat and the water. At least for now.

  • Helen says:

    Hi Cassondra

    I think that when youare with other people you should only use your phone if really need be I tend to not hear mine a lot becuase I leave it in my handbag LOL and I really do not like it when I am serving someone and they are on their phones this has happened to me a few times and as for etiquete always be polite with your phone.

    We never had a phone when I was growing up my Mum got a phone on when I got married LOL but I do like the convienience of my mobile phone

    Have Fun
    Helen

    • Cassondra says:

      Hi Helen,

      I think we didn’t have a phone when I was a tiny, tiny little girl, because I remember getting one. I must have been three or four years old at the time. But now I not only feel put out if I have to stand by a phone to talk, I want a bluetooth, so I can use both hands to work at something while I talk. I often fold laundry or sometimes I weed a flower bed if it’s a long conversation. I guess it goes back to not really enjoying phones in general. I’d rather dig my eye out with a spoon than JUST stand/sit there and hold a phone to my ear to talk. Spoiled. I’ve gotten spoiled.

  • Dianna aka Hrdwrkdmom says:

    I have a daughter in TX that won’t talk to me. She texts me all the time. Really? I can certainly say it quicker and be done with it, than I can text it, and try to explain what I am talking about, really I can.
    I think it is rude to be on the phone when you are in checkout, when you are with real live people face to face, and yes, I have gotten someone else’s text before. My granddaughter texted me a question and I texted question marks back. Then I got sorry mawmaw, that wasn’t for you. Ya think???
    I have been known to walk away from a texting person that I was talking to. They can be rude if they choose but if the conversation is that important to them then I will give them privacy.

    • Cassondra says:

      Dianna, I think it will come down to that–the rules of etiquette will probably evolve to say, “no texting while face to face in conversation.” And I think that’s reasonable. I know some interruptions can’t be avoided, but talking to someone and having only a small fraction of their attention makes me feel rotten, whether it’s the tv, the computer, the cell phone, or anything else causing the distraction.

  • Shannon says:

    Cell phones are both a blessing and a curse. I hate having dinner or lunch with someone who texts or takes calls like to arrange a next meeting. It feels like they have something better to do than be with me.

    But when my mom was sick having constant contact with her and my brother gave me peace of mind. It allowed me to do doctor appointments and meeting with assisted living places while doing errands for her.

    • Cassondra says:

      Shannon, that’s the beauty of it. I know if I break down on the road I can get help, or my mom, who’s older, can reach me at any time if I have my phone with me. So I guess it’s “safer” in many ways than being out of communication.

      I’m not sure what it does to our muses and our ability to focus on one thing. And I’ve found that because of my mom potentially needing to reach me, I never turn it off. Otherwise I would. It would be turned off at a certain time of night and back on in the morning, I think. Not sure if that would work, but I’d like to give it a try sometime.

  • Hellion says:

    Seriously, we must have grown up on neighboring farms. I had a party line. I have people older than me asking what the heck that is. I did go through the teenage thing of being on the phone A LOT; however, I outgrew that and now if you call me, it better be a damned good reason. And not because you won $25 in free tortilla chips. You’re standing next to Tom Hiddleston and he wants to talk to me–that’s an appropriate time to call me.

    I hate cell phones (though I have one–not a smart phone because everyone I’ve seen with one is so rude about them without meaning to be)–and if you check your phone too much during lunch with me, I will drop your phone on the floor and stomp on it. Seriously, it’s an hour. I’m HERE. You’re not missing out…it’s the whole “Am I missing something better” thing that pisses me off because it’s so rude to do to the other person.

    Ah, a coworker (a MAN) and I got into an argument of if it was appropriate to answer your phone during a wedding. “What are you doing with your phone on during the wedding?” “Well, it’s on vibrate. I want to check.” “DURING a wedding?” “It’s not my wedding.” “If you don’t care, WHY are you at this wedding?”–and on and on and on. He kept arguing; I kept telling him he was wrong. He finally went to a girlfriend and asked and she told him off too. Incidentally he doesn’t see the problem with texting during a wedding if he’s not IN the wedding. (Though admittedly he wouldn’t do it during a funeral. Because that’s just not right.)

    But I agree that they’re a blessing and a curse thing. I have an elderly parent that I need to keep tabs on and stuff…and it’s the quickest way to get ahold of me. Still….

    • Cassondra says:

      LOL Hellion! I wondered if you grew up with a party line. I think our rural roots must be very similar.

      I’ve thought a bit about this “missing something better” thing. I believe some people have that going on. But I also wonder if a lot of people just haven’t gotten trained that “I have to respond immediately if somebody contacts me”–I always get a double whammy of worry if I don’t text back right away if somebody calls. First I feel a little guilty, like they needed me and I’m ignoring them. Second, I’m always worried that if I don’t respond now I’ll flat out forget it, which is a real worry for me since lately I have no mind and things just fall through.

      I do know a couple of people who are waiting for something better to come along, but those people also dilly-dally about committing to come to an event until the last minute, because they’re waiting to see if a better offer comes along. I finally figured out what they were doing, and now I no longer invite them to anything.

      I notice that most people now feel some urgency to answer texts–even more than phone calls–and I’ve been trying to figure out what that’s about–why we feel like if it’s texted to us, it’s urgent. Maybe it’s the brevity of it? Hmmmm.

  • catslady says:

    I totally agree with you! The only person I know without a phone is my 92 yr. old mom and she should have one just in case of an emergency but refuses and my older sister has the kind that you pay 25 cents for a call so it’s never used lol. I text with my daughters all the time and it’s great unless it turns lengthy and then I wish they would just call lol. I don’t have a smartphone though because it’s just one more expense but I do wish I could get all the photos they try to send since mine won’t always work for pics. Oh, and I grew up with a party line too – one older lady always listened but I rarely talked on the phone until my later teens and by then it was gone.

    • Cassondra says:

      Ooooo, Catslady! You knew who it was who was listening in on the party line?

      I remember my mom would say, “I heard the phone click. (nsert name here) picked up and was listening.” But I thought she was guessing. I was guessing at which kids were eavesdropping.

      How did you know it was that lady?

      • catslady says:

        I didn’t know her but my mother did. She actually talked a few times and if she wanted to phone she told us to get off – can you imagine. And truly my mom wasn’t one to talk unless it was important lol.

  • Deb says:

    Our phone, when I was a kid, looked like the photo above, only it was beige and it sat on a little shelf on a niche in the wall. Ours wasn’t a party line, but I have heard my mom and dad talk about that and 3 short rings is the Jones’ and 2 long rings is the Jones’…

    I hate to say that my cell phone is like an extra limb. I feel insecure without it, and even use it as an alarm clock. There is a reason for that; when my husband drove over the road, there were times he couldn’t call and say “Hi, I love you” when normal people are awake. So, I kept the cell phone by my bed to hear him say I love you even at 2 in the morning.

    My first cell phone was what they called car phones. Emergencies only, no fun talking, and it was honkin’ huge!

    One last thing, I’ve never received an unknown text, but I sent one just last week. Thanks to my sister for giving me the wrong number…I texted my nephew Zach to see what he wanted for his birthday, threw in some suggestions, and even said, “Love ya, Aunt Deb.” The text that came back said, “That sounds great, Aunt Deb, Zach is a lucky kid; but, you’ve texted a wrong number. Hope you can connect with Zach.” I texted back to apologize. 🙂 Oops.

    • Cassondra says:

      Hahahahahaha! I love that–the person who received it had a sense of humor.

      The guy down the street who texted me?–I responded to him too. I got that and the apology immediately after, and I texted back….Bwahahaha, that was a really good text. Lucky wife. And he texted back I try!

  • Oh, Cassondra, please don’t get me started!!

    Oops, too late!

    1. The best thing, the most important thing people with cellphones can do IS NOT FREAKING DRIVE while talking or texting with them.

    I almost got hit by a driver in the emergency room parking lot one night as I was walking into work. He had 2…TWO cell phones to his ears. How the hell was he steering? He was going slow, but when my hand hit his hood. He hit the brakes and looked at me like what? And like it was my fault. Me. I gave him the perpetual-sign-of-love-and-good-will and went into work.

    Turns out he was a Dr. found me AND thought he should chew me out for unprofessional behavior.

    I waited for his rant to end, then asked if he was trying to drum up business. He asked me what I meant, I said. Sir, you almost ran me over while talking on 2 phones at once. I wish you had, I could’ve sued you for everything you had AND you would be the new doc in prison.

    Sigh.

    The ass finally realized what an ass he was and actually apologized. Said he was trying to get information about a patient. I arched one brow and told him that was no excuse to endanger others.

    2. Cell phones should always be on mute in meetings and at the dinner table, even preferably placed in coat pockets or purses.

    I got my first cell phone while I was president of my local RWA chapter (DARA). Every meeting I started the meeting by holding up my cell phone, asking everyone to take theirs out and we all muted them together. I said, this was so they could help me remember to do it.

    When I go to lunch or dinner with friends, I keep the phone on mute and in my purse. I only check it when the other person goes to the restroom.

    3. Don’t have large arguments or loud conversations on the phone in public. I really, really, really don’t want to hear YOU yell at YOUR kids, when mine are blissfully not with me for me to yell at. YOUR business is not important enough that I need to know it. YOU are not so important that everyone else needs to hear your conversation.

    Those are my three big rules.

    At home I keep the phone on mute in my office. It’s lying on my desk right now. Since I wear earbuds and listen to music while I write, I won’t hear it anyways. BUT the screen lights up and I can see who it is. I usually answer it if it’s someone I know. I find it way less intrusive to the writing process. My text messages light up the screen, too. No buzzes or beeps.

    Oh, BTW…my grandma had a party line when I was young. I loved catching her quietly eavesdropping on her neighbors. hehehehe

    • Cassondra says:

      Way to go, Suz on giving that doc a talking to. Around here, that’s becoming less acceptable–the whole “I’m a doc I can do anything and you have to treat me like a god.” Where Steve works, it’s absolutely gone. I hear stories all the time about hospital staff backing the docs down when they get on a tear, and the administration normally stands behind the staff, which I think is cool and good for patient care…puts everybody on a more level playing field. I realize that’s still not true in many places though.

      I love your “cell phones on mute” thing Great way to start a meeting. I keep my phone right beside me, but if I’m writing, I will answer it for only three people. Steve, my mom (age 87 and not in good health) or Dianna Love, since I work with her. Otherwise I figure people can leave a voice mail, and they’ll keep it brief if they do. If I pick up that phone, I’ll lose at least a half hour and I’m just not willing.

  • Debbie Oxier says:

    I used to work at a bank. We had people come through the drive-Up all the time who would be talking on their cell phones and expect you to wait while they finished their conversation. Most of the time I walked away and waited on someone else. Talk about rude! Like we didn’t have better things to do! My family can be bad about cell phone use at family functions. I have often thought about collecting all of them and telling them they would get them back when they were ready to leave.

    • Cassondra says:

      Haha, Debbie, I love that you just walked away to wait on someone else. Hopefully they didn’t mind that at all, because they were keeping YOU waiting, and you were providing the service, darnit!

      If you ever try that at a family function–collecting the phones–you definitely need to come back here and give us a report in the lair. I’d like to know how that goes!

  • Cassondra, I LOVE this post! It’s nice to know I’m not the only person on the planet not in love with the telephone. I hate how it screams to be answered no matter what I”m doing (if that was a real person doing that, you’d think they were the rudest people in the world). I hate that people think I’m available 24 hours a day. I’m NOT! I hate that people think their slight imperative (and generally that’s as strong as it gets!) is an emergency and I must jump to respond no matter what I’m doing, just because they can ring me and tell me about it. Yeah, I know, I’m a phone curmudgeon! I was very slow getting a mobile phone but got sick of people yelling at me because I didn’t have one. So eventually, reluctantly I got one. Now people yell at me because it’s never on, despite the fact that I’m on email ALL the time and I have a perfectly workable landline that I’m usually available to answer as well. My poor old cell phone (we call them mobiles here) is due to be replaced and I’ll probably have to get something with bells and whistles. Sigh. More yelling ahead, I can see it.

    On the other hand, I LOVE email!

    • Cassondra says:

      Anna, I’m with you in being a curmudgeon!

      Cell phone curmudgeons, unite!

      Do you text at all? I wonder if you’ll love a phone that makes texting easy–I’d much rather text than talk in most cases, but that’s just me. Sometimes if a lot needs to be said and it’s complicated, nothing but a voice call will do.

    • Anna, you are on the same page as the dh. He has a cell phone for travel and for highway emergencies only. The rest of the time, it lives in his glove compartment. When he’s going out of town, we have to bring it in and charge it. He hasn’t figured out how to retrieve voice messages, so leaving him one is pointless.

      We also have a landline and plan to keep it.

  • Becke says:

    So tell me, Bandits and Buddies, what is courteous behavior for cell phone use?

    Calls should be private. I don’t know and don’t want to know about someone’s personal calls. Find a place and take the stupid call!

    Do you have any pet peeves about cell phones, whether in public or in private?

    Texting and walking in the hall. Get out of the way. Step to the side. You aren’t in a solo universe!

    IF you could write a section in the “Bandit Book of Modern Cell Phone Etiquette” what would you put in there?

    It would be a saga.

    Mercy, we could rant about this all day. There have been few time when my cell had to be attached like a limb to me.

    JMHO
    b

    • Cassondra says:

      LOL Becke, about this one…

      It would be a saga.

      I love the “step aside” bit. That’s one of my pet peeves too. In the grocery store when people stop in the middle of the aisle to text rather than moving over to the side…you can’t get around them, and you can’t get to the groceries you need!

  • Becke says:

    Cassondra,

    Funny story. When I was a kid, an operator answered when you picked up and said, “Number, please.” Then the operator would connect you.

    My best friend’s mother worked for the company. When I said “1616” my friend’s number, she said “What do you want?” I nearly wet myself until she laughed and I recognized her. She was always cutting up and just like my second mom.
    b

    • Cassondra says:

      Oh, Becke, that’s funny.

      I never lived in a community where the operator had to connect you. I used to see than on the Andy Griffith show and wondered about it. I also wondered whether you could make calls at night, or only during the daytimes because (I think it was) Sara was the only operator, and any time they had to make a call, day or night, that’s who connected them. I used to wonder when Sara got to sleep!

  • So tell me, Bandits and Buddies, what is courteous behavior for cell phone use?

    Cassondra, what a timely topic! Cell phones seem to be everywhere anymore. I never wanted Call Waiting either, though it was handy when I had a child in grade school and an elderly parent with medical issues.

    Do you have any pet peeves about cell phones, whether in public or in private?

    Yes. Definitely. I do not need to be privy to someone else’s conversation, and I do not want to be. Anything more than a few words should be taken to an area where there are no people within at least 20 feet. And if a person has to raise his/her voice to broadcast, s/he needs to get a new phone.

    I hate hearing someone’s conversation, and I hate it worse when I’m sitting in a restaurant and that person keeps talking louder and LOUDER so the people at our table cannot carry on a conversation. Of course, many people lack inside voices regardless of whether they’re on cell phones or not. I mean, honestly, if someone’s three tables away, we should not be hearing them.

    The dh and I hate it when people text at traffic lights and don’t notice when the light turns green. I’m not usually one to honk at drivers who’re slow to respond to the green light (we daydreamers have our own flaws there), but when it happens three or four lights in a row and the person’s head comes up before they start moving, I run out of patience.

    When my friends and I eat out, the phones stay in the purses unless someone is waiting to go do an airport pickup or has a relative with an urgent need to get in touch.

    Ever gotten a text meant for someone else?

    Not so far as I know.

    If you could write a section in the “Bandit Book of Modern Cell Phone Etiquette” what would you put in there?

    Stand at least 20 feet from other people to conduct a conversation, and modulate your voice so it doesn’t carry more than 10 feet.

    Do not talk on a cell phone while standing in line or checking out. I once had someone go all the way through a lunch hour weigh-in line and the actual weigh-in itself without ever shutting up her phone conversation. She was the least popular person in that meeting room at that moment. I am so on board with your policy about interacting with the humans in front of you instead of treating them like furniture.

    And of course, No Texting While Driving–Especially Not if the Car is IN MOTION. Ack!

    • Cassondra says:

      Aw, Nancy, I just really agree that the person checking you out deserves at least for you to be present while they do it. Otherwise I’ll go through the self-check lane, and then I have to actually…you know–PAY ATTENTION.

      I’m a person with a voice that really carries, so I have to be careful to not bother people when I’m on the phone. I’ve taken to going outside if it’s more than, “hey are you on the way? Okay, see you when you get here.”

      I’ll be glad when phones are better about picking up the user’s voice and cutting out background noise. That way in busy restaurants, you won’t have to yell to be heard. That’s just obnoxious.

  • Alyn says:

    I work in retail so I really dislike it when a customer walks up and they won’t get off their phone. I hear the conversation and it isn’t important either, mainly just gossiping and I don’t want to hear that unless it is juicy gossip that I can go spread around too! Another peeve of mine is using the phone while driving. The other day I happened to see a driver take a selfie.

    I have never received a text meant for someone else but I have sent out a text meant for somebody else. I forgot to check the name before pressing send. Nothing embarrassing though.