The Eyes Have It with Robin Giana

Hello, All!  I’m so happy to again be a guest on The Romance Bandits blog! 

Robin GianaMy second medical romance for Harlequin Mills & Boon, The Last Temptation of Dr. Dalton, was just released on April 1st.  You can see my North American cover here, and a number of people have commented on how gorgeous the model’s eyes are.  She’s beautiful all around, but it is true that her eyes really capture your attention, don’t you think?Last Temptation of Dr. Dalton

I pondered why her eyes are so compelling, other than their obvious attractiveness.  Was it their color?  The smile in them?  The shape?  Then I thought of that old saying, “The eyes are the window to the soul.”  Some of you probably know the origin, which is considered to be the Bible verse Matthew 6:22-23 which says: 

“The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness.  If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!”           

A form of the quote about eyes being the window to the soul has been traced all the way back to Cicero who lived from 106 B.C. to 43 B.C.  And Shakespeare, as well as many other writers and poets, have used versions of it. So it seems it must be human nature to feel that we can know who someone is just by looking into their eyes.  Needless, to say, heroes and heroines gaze at one another quite a bit in romance novels! 

So I was fascinated to find there has actually been a study done on this subject!  *Scientists at Orebro University in Sweden studied 428 people to see if their personality traits in any way correlated to the structures within their irises.  Apparently, everyone’s eyes have different patterns of dots, lines and colors, a bit like fingerprints.  The scientists focused on threads which radiate from the pupil, and lines that are formed when the pupil dilates.

irisThe study found that those with more densely packed threads are more warmhearted, trusting and empathetic.  People with more furrows in the lines formed during dilation were likely to be impulsive, or give in to cravings more easily.  Scientists theorize that it could be because the same genes responsible for the development of the iris are also involved in the development of the frontal lobe of the brain.

This just may make me want to stare deeply into the eyes of people I know to see what I can find out about them! (and this probably gives you the creeps, making you vow to never make a lunch date with me! 🙂panorama2

 How about you?  What physical features or behaviors do you pay attention to most as you get to know someone?  Is there one physical feature in a person you find most attractive? 

I’m giving away a print copy of The Last Temptation of Dr. Dalton and a tote bag to a commenter! 

 

*Source: Daily Mail.co.uk

Comments

69 Comments

  • Cathy P says:

    I have to admit that the eyes are one of the first things I notice. My parents always said that if a person can’t look you in the eye when they are talking to you, they are not to be trusted. I have found that to be very true over the years. If we are talking about men, the next things I notice about them are their chest, shoulders, and arms,

    • Cathy, you’ll have to check out the Rooster’s eyes! They’re beady – I’m not sure what color they are!

    • After the face, I go for the shoulders as well, Cathy. My husband was a football player in college. Love those wide shoulders 🙂

    • Robin Gianna says:

      I’m embarrassed to admit that a couple years ago, I was picking my son up from a friend’s house, and the boy’s dad was in the driveway washing his car shirtless. I’d never seen him without a shirt on, and he was surprisingly buff and studly! While we were talking, I found my gaze drifting down to his pecs and shoulders and had to yank them back up again. I’m really afraid he noticed! 🙂

  • Patty L. says:

    I pay attention to mouths. Crazy as it sounds it is amazing how many people lick or bite their lips while talking. Also find it fascinating to watch a dual talker ( you know that person that mimics your words almost to the point of
    Speaking for you) they both amaze me and freaky me out equally.

    • Interesting. I hadn’t really noticed that about lips, Patty. I’ll have to pay more attention.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      I do also notice the shapes of people’s lips. My daughter’s lips are similarly shaped to my husband’s, and they’re unusual (and, of course I think they’re attractive!)

      I haven’t noticed ‘dual talkers’ – I’m going to start looking for that!

      Thanks for your post!

  • Marcy Shuler says:

    I do like eyes, but I look at smiles and dimples, if they’re lucky enough to have them. I’m a sucker for dimples.

  • Robin, welcome back! And congratulations on the release of your second book. Hope you sell a million! I LOVE that cover – you’re so right about the model’s eyes. Aren’t they lovely? I must say I notice eyes and smiles – and I’m a particular goner when they’re smiley eyes. I didn’t know that there was a biblical origin for the eyes are windows to the soul, although it definitely makes sense that there would be!

    • Wasn’t that interesting? I thought the correlation between the irises and personality was fascinating. LOL on the densely packed eyes. Maybe that’s why my eyesight is so bad – my irises are too densely packed. 🙂

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Thank you, Anna! I love the cover too. Interestingly, on my UK cover (which is usually different than the North American cover) the woman is biting her lip and looking up out of the corner of her eye. I like it, too, because in the story the heroine is deceiving the hero – uh-oh! What happens if he finds out? 😉 All this has really made me think about how many different expressions we all use without realizing it.

  • Helen says:

    Congrats on the release Robin sounds like a great one and I too will notice people’s eyes and their smiles

    Have Fun
    Helen

  • Amy Conley says:

    Eyes for sure. And a nice bum on a guy with great eyes doesn’t hurt.

    • LOL Amy – You find something to appreciate coming and going 🙂

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Yes, the bum/shoulders combo from the back is appealing – and you can stare as much as you want since they can’t see you! (Unless they have eyes in the back of their heads – which might be another blog subject!) 😉

  • Lucy says:

    Congratulations on the wonderful release Robin!

    I noticed my husband’s eyes first – big and brown with the longest black eyelashes!!

    Also, I do notice smiles as they help tell if a person is being sincere or not…

    • Lucy –

      Why is it that men have such long lashes? (And use them to their distinct advantage, I’m afraid.) 🙂

    • Robin Gianna says:

      My one son has short, fairly light eyelashes (he’s dark blond, for some unknown reason – my husband claims it must be from the cable man) 😉 and my other son has long, dark eyelashes. Interesting how that gene pool works!

      And I agree about smiles – they do tell a lot, don’t they?

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • Shannon says:

    I’m dealing with a couple of strong women at work. I’ve noted a couple of things, their eyes, their animation of face and body, but also their tone/volume of voice with the mouth moving really fast.

    • Shannon – I find it’s harder to understand someone when they talk fast – even on tv. The dialogue might be snappy and fast, but I’ll miss half of it. Makes my head spin.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Do you find it compelling, Shannon, or off-putting? I do think animated people tend to draw others to them, while more reserved folks don’t so much. There’s definitely a happy medium in there somewhere, though, I think!

  • Mary Preston says:

    I must agree, I notice eyes and smiles. They tell you so much about the person. Often more than the words being spoken.

    • Mary – I think I read a study that most of communication is in the body language and inflection as in how something is spoken. The actual words spoken is a very small part of the dialogue.

      • Robin Gianna says:

        Not to be sexist, but do you think women more than men have the ability to read people better, in general, Donna? Or is it more of just an individual personality thing? I’m sure you’re right, though, that we all unconsciously register body language and expression when we’re interacting with people.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Really true, Mary!

      Thanks so much for stopping in!

  • Dianna aka Hrdwrkdmom says:

    Eyes and hands for me. Big hands but a gentle touch wins my heart.

    • Big hands – especially when they’re wrapped around you – are wonderful. I know that big feet are supposed to be indicative of other body parts – does the same hold true for hands? 🙂

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Oooh, I hadn’t thought about that but, yes, hands are important! “Big hands but a gentle touch” – I like that! Might have to use it in the next book 😉

  • Robin, welcome back, and congrats on your new release! This is a fascinating topic. I tend to look at people’s eyes first because they really are so expressive. When I worked in the court system, I met some people–usually when they were in custody but sometimes friends of defendants–whose cold, flat eyes gave me a “Danger, Will Robinson!” vibe in a seriously not good way.

    When it comes to guys, I have a weakness for dimples and strong jawlines. But eyes where someone is home behind them, where there’s intelligence and kindness and hunor, trump all else.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Thank you, Nancy! I so agree with the jawlines on men – strong ones do grab my attention! And I bet working in the court system with all kinds of people would be sure to teach you a lot about expressions and body language!

      Speaking of the expressiveness of eyes – the photo of blue eyes I posted here is from a booklet my daughter did about marathon running (she’s in graphic design), and it’s of her own eyes. She’s a runner, and I think you can see the determination in her gaze in that photo, don’t you think?

  • Jodelle Brohard says:

    What a great post. Thanks for sharing all your research about that quote about eyes. I too notice eyes first. And like most posters, I think I notice people’s smiles next.

    And I think I may be one of those double talkers another poster mentioned. In a video skit for school years ago, one of my daughters asked me to read a part. I did that but the funny part was when we watched the video later, I was also mouthing along with lots of other people’s parts.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      That’s so funny, Jodie! Maybe you missed your calling and should have been on Saturday Night Live – I think a skit with you mouthing the other’s parts would be a hoot! 🙂

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • Margs says:

    I notice hands first on a guy. Weird I know but I always have. As I get to know a person (of either gender) I notice the eyes more. Eyes pretty much say it all.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      I don’t think that’s weird, Margs! While they’re not the first thing I notice, If I’m interested in a man, I do pay attention to what his hands look like (I guess I should be saying that in the past tense, since I’m married!) 😉

      Then we’re back to those eyes saying it all…yes indeed! (I’m looking deep into yours next time I see you…just a warning…;-)

  • Cassondra says:

    Hi Robin, and welcome back!

    Congrats on this new release, and my goodness, what a gorgeous cover. I’d be compelled to buy that just to find out who she is!

    The eyes DO have it for me…that’s what I notice first bout any person… Then their smile and..if it’s a woman…her jewelry. My eye is drawn to the shiny I guess. And that’s not so much about the person, but I do get information from how women put themselves together. Big chunky jewelry that makes a splash, or small, demure, barely there chains and teeny earrings.

    When it’s men, I notice arms and shoulders. And a flat stomach is really, really appealing, especially as I get older and there are so few of those.

    • LOL on the fewer men with flat stomachs, Cassondra. Isn’t that the truth? Those little beer bellies start making an appearance and you pray that they have the sense to wear a bathing suit and not speed-o’s at the pool 🙂

  • Robin Gianna says:

    Thank you so much, Cassandra!

    I like your comment about jewelry – it is another thing that says something about personality, isn’t it? And the lack of jewelery, too. And I’m with you on the flat stomach on men – as you said, as we all get older the battle of the bulge occurs for men, too, and it’s very noticeable and attractive when a mature man has tight abs!

  • catslady says:

    Eyes and smiles are probably what I pay attention to the most. But I seem to have a thing for hands – not clammy lol and strong and firm in a man and long fingers on a woman.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Long fingers are lovely on a woman, aren’t they? Sadly, mine are short and stubby (like me!) but at least they work well for me 🙂

      And yes, clammy isn’t too pleasant, is it? I actually saw in a doctor’s office that some people have problems with that, and there’s a medicine to address it – who knew?

      Thanks for stopping by!

  • Kaelee says:

    Just had to drop in and tell you how much I’m looking forward to reading Trent Dalton’s story. He was a great secondary character in Changed by his Son’s Eyes which I really enjoyed reading.

    There is that word EYES again. I don’t think I really notice eyes as much as smiles. My husband can tell me the color of most people’s eyes but it isn’t something I notice. He is an extrovert and I am an introvert so maybe that has something to do with it.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Thank you SO much for your nice words, Kaelee! I’d love to hear from you after you read Trent’s story 🙂

      Now you’ve got me wondering if there’s some old saying about smiles showing who a person is, since there have been so many comments here – just might have to research that!

  • Carol says:

    The “eyes” have it! 🙂

  • bn100 says:

    if they smile

  • Becke says:

    Donna,

    I think for me, it’s presence. A guy needs to be attractive to me, but it’s his carriage-how he presents to me.

    That package includes assertiveness, confidence, maybe a little aloof, comfortable with his body, but not a legend in his own mind.

    I also like forearms (anterior surface) and a nice little bum!

    • Another with appreciation for the guy coming or going 🙂 Thanks for stopping by Becke.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Presence is important, isn’t it, Becke? Long ago when I was in college, a guy who was friends with guys I worked with often came into our restaurant. He wasn’t particularly good-looking – not unattractive but not handsome. Yet the ultra-confidence he exuded, but in a nice way, was most definitely attractive!

  • Mozette says:

    I’m a whole package kinda person… you know, dress sense, polished shoes, making sure the belt matches the shoes, the aftershave isn’t the cheap crap teenagers wear (you know, so you know they’re not just a player)… then the hair. I don’t care if they’re balding, if it’s worn long, short, if there’s none at all, so long they know I find whatever they do with it sexy… and they can pull the style they’ve chosen off! (I went out with a guy who had long gorgeous hair and he was beginning to go bald on the back of his head… I didn’t care. I loved his long hair… actually I forgot about his bald spot until he kept… on… pointing… it… out! How annoying can ya be!Then, he accused me of being the one who did that!)

    Then, it’s his hands.. yep, his hands have to be nice, soft and clean. Nails have to be kept short, clean and not sharp. I like a guy who can care for himself and his skin… it’s nice to know he gives two hoots about himself – it means that I can too and not feel like what we’re doing is just me pimping myself out to him so he can look like a complete slob (went out a lovely guy once who did this, and didn’t understand that we could be a stand-out couple… people looked at me as though to wonder what I saw in him when he dressed like he dove into a charity bin).

    Then, it’s personality, eyes, features… yeah… the physical things come into then. I know this sounds like it all comes in backwards, but really this is how I’ve come to look at men. Also, if they treat me like a starving dog and start yelling at me, that’s it. Like Bart Simpon’s Principal said: ‘With Edna Crabapple, you only get one chance.’… and that’s how it works with me. With men, if they blow their chance with me, they don’t get another. First impressions last a very long time with me; until they prove beyond reasonable doubt whatever happened last time was beyond their control. 🙂

    • Robin Gianna says:

      So what I hear your saying, Mozette, is that ultimately it’s how a man treats you and makes an effort for you that’s important. And, really, when it comes down to it, that’s the thing that matters most, isn’t it?

      Thanks for your perspective – one that comes from a little experience, I know, and one that I hope my college daughter embraces 🙂

      • Mozette says:

        Hey you’re welcome, Robin. And yeah, it does take a bit of experience to figure out exactly what you want in a man… even if we do have to kiss a few frogs/toads in our lives, we will eventually find a good guy who is nice, sweet and will do anything to keep us. 😀

        And like you, I hope my niece embraces the be fussy about guys thing too… and not just go out with anyone.

  • flchen1 says:

    I do think eyes are very telling 🙂 And yes, a sense of humor is a very good thing!

    • Robin Gianna says:

      A sense of humor is so important – at least to me, it is. Long ago in my dating days I went out with this exceptionally handsome guy – he was nice, too, and a Harvard grad. The whole package, right? He was as dull as he could be, with absolutely no sense of humor! So disappointing! I wonder if he married a humorless woman and had humorless kids.
      🙂

  • Laurie G says:

    I like a man who smiles. Next I check out his physique and then his hairstyle. I’m not attracted to bald heads or crew cut haircuts.

    Personality is important too but first I need a connection, an attraction.

    • Robin Gianna says:

      Hairstyle is one that hasn’t come up yet on the blog! I do have to agree about hair (and don’t tell my hubby, since he’s losing his) – I find that in my stories I often refer to the hero’s thick and/or soft hair, maybe a tad long depending on who he is..*sigh* You’re definitely right,too, that there needs to be an initial physical attraction there before all the rest.

      Thanks for your comment, Laurie!

  • Xandra James says:

    Fascinating subject!

    I love gazing at eyes, and have to admit, that’s the first thing I notice (with people in general). With the opposite sex? Eyes and mouth, quickly followed by their forearms… 😉